March 5, 2011
Buddy taping is the act of allowing one stronger to support the weaker — a short-term aid to gain long view capability.
Buddy taping can be applied to:
- a young sapling to help it grow
- an injured finger/toe to allow it to heal
- a new recruit learning the ropes
- <your suggestion here>
This week was a buddy taping week…
As I started my new position this week, I relied heavily on others around me to educate me in the current needs, deadlines, and technology of the organization. The tasks and opportunties that have emerged energize me, but I still need the help of others until I get my bearings. I am grateful for the generosity of my new colleagues. 🙂
To solidify the buddy taping theme for the week, I injured my baby toe in a running accident. It was wet and muddy on the trail that I regularly run and I slipped on a muddy incline slamming my foot into a rock at the bottom of the section. My baby toe took the brunt of the force. Poor baby toe…all black and blue and swollen. 😦 But my injured toe made it the 2.5 miles back to the car without too much complaint — then it set up!
Do you buddy tape when you need support?
January 11, 2010
First, I have been married a LONG time (in a few more months, a wonderful 20 years LONG) so this will not be all gushy…
The setting was post-breakfast. Everyone at the house was moving toward jobs and school (two teens, two parents). I mention to my wonderful husband that I just got off the phone about a quote for some insurance that I thought we should consider. His immediate response was to tell me that it was unnecessary and I shouldn’t spend any time on it. I became upset because I thought I was doing something good for us and he was not being duly appreciative.
Even though we both hate to part mad at each other, there was no time to get everything back to better before we all had to depart (he was leaving for three days).
When I was done being upset, I wrote him a quick email with the following long view advice: Support first, then Criticize.
- I know that we both hate parting mad, so I apologize for not being able to get past my upset this morning. I know that you mean well when you criticize my efforts. I even value the criticisms, but not when I don’t feel supported.
- I need from you: Support first, then criticism. Okay?!
- You beat me to the punch. I was chomping at the bit all morning to get a moment to write you and say “sorry” for the bad parting this morning. Yes, you are right. I meant to say and do exactly as you suggest – “good idea to investigate, let’s make sure we understand if it is really needed.” Please accept my apology.
- Apology accepted.
All better! 🙂
Are you supporting first and then criticizing (when needed)?
P.S. Support first then criticize (if needed) applies to business too….